We all have that one friend who retells events to you, then asks your opinion while she suggests what your opinion should be. You know the type: And girl, my boss wrote me up at work so I quit! Who does he think he is?! You respond: Do you have anything else lined up? Her: No but girl I told you how he’s been treating me. I couldn’t take it anymore.
Or how about: Girl I am so unhappy in my marriage. I’m about to leave him! God loves me too much for me to be unhappy. You respond: I’m sorry to hear that. What happened? Her: I’m just not happy. He just doesn’t do it for me. We never should’ve gotten married. You: Oh. Did God release you to divorce him? Her: Girl he never gave me permission. So leaving him is like correcting my sin of disobedience.
Or how about: I am so depressed. God is just not blessing me. Everyone around me is getting blessed and I’m not. You respond: well have you gotten off the couch and done something to give God to bless? Her: He doesn’t even give me the energy to get off the couch!
I think this sis knows she is wrong. Knows her way of thinking, stinks! So she purposely surrounds herself with others who will feed into her stinking thinking. That way, she has no motivation to change, or do better. A good friend would tell her sis 1. It sucks what’s going on with your job. Fix up your resume and start looking for a better gig. In the meantime, pray for your boss! God can make him behave! And give you strength to stand in the meantime. 2. I’m sorry that you are feeling that way in your marriage. But if you leave without any biblical reason AND direction from God, you will only be more miserable. Seek God on what to do. Here are some great readings on marriage and being a wife. 3. You’ve got to give God something to bless. Let’s figure out your purpose, what you like to do…stop focusing on everyone else and start focusing on you!
Proverbs 15:14 MSG An intelligent person is always eager to take in more truth;
fools feed on fast-food fads and fancies.
Yes men are a no no. Hearing them confirm your wrong feelings, thoughts, desires is good for your flesh, but detrimental to your spiritual growth. Even when we know we are wrong, hearing others agree enough, will cause us to believe our wrong is right. Your spirit should crave honesty. The more you feed into it, the more you will crave it, the more you will walk in it, the more you will mature in it. The word says that only fools like fast food fads and fancies. Do not fall prey to quick fixes, like fast food. And we all can see how fads and fancies change every other day. There is no life in that. No consistency. Chase after what is true and honest. Chase after Jesus Christ.
I think this is the reason a lot of us stay in bad relationships (not marriages, but boyfriend girlfriend). Chasing after truth sometimes means chasing alone. Click To Tweet There is a sick comfort that comes from being lied to, simply because there is someone there to lie to us. Let that man go, sis, if his pattern is fast food fads and fancies. Your walk with Christ requires more than that, and also offers more than that.
I’m a sensitive person. So I understand how hearing what is right can be hurtful, especially when its spoken harsh or mean. I have been so bruised by the meanness of someone’s words that it has shut me all the way down. I couldn’t hear the truth for hearing the mean. If you are the one delivering truth, please remember Ephesians 4:15 MSG God wants us to grow up, to know the whole truth and tell it in love—like Christ in everything.
We need to learn how to crave honesty and give honesty in love…