Women, generally speaking, are multi-taskers. Because of this, our brains are always on the go, two steps ahead of where we are now. That’s a good thing, because we are running households and careers and often times feel we need to think for everyone. Right? We have to plan. However, planning, and worrying are two different things.
When those “next-step” thoughts turn to worry, it causes us to miss out on or be unappreciative of the “now”. I remember when I had my first child, my love muffin. I was so anxious for him to be more mobile. Not just because he was literally two tons of fun, I was little and petite, and carrying him around was no joke. But also because I thought he and I would have more fun when he could bounce around, clap his hands, spit bubbles etc. My mother gave me great advice: enjoy each stage with him, because when it’s gone, it’s gone. I didn’t truly grasp it at the time. As love muffing grew and was clapping his hands, I wanted him to sit. When he started sitting, I wanted him to stand. When he started standing, I wanted him to walk. I understood her point when I started missing his lump of loving, when I could just cuddle him and he would let me. Enjoy each stage. Now I try to soak up each moment of each stage. I realize how quickly they fly by.
I’m like that with silly things as well. If I have an hour massage, I have to check myself, before I constantly agonize that I only have 35 more minutes of a good time. And we all have woke up in the middle of the night and calculated how many more hours before the alarm ruined a good time. That’s no fun at all. From that moment on, we sigh in discontentment, agonizing over how little sleep we may actually achieve.
When I learned that infidelity had plagued my marriage, it was my god-mother who gave me great advice. She said, if I let that hurt, pain, anger…anguish stew, I would wake up one day and realize I had missed time with my love muffins. That I would not be able to remember days spent with them, funny memories, special events, etc. Bitterness is a thief!
Learn to appreciate the moment that you are in. No matter what happened yesterday. You made it to today! Lamentations 3:22-23 says It is because of the Lord’s mercy and loving-kindness that we are not consumed, because His [tender] compassions fail not.They are new every morning; great and abundant is Your stability and faithfulness. In other words, each new day His mercy towards us is new. Just like He took care of us yesterday, the same is true of today. And by all means, don’t let the anxieties of tomorrow, rob you of anything that today has to offer. Matthew 6:34 says Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own. God is there in your tomorrow. Let that thought sink in. He’s already in tomorrow, working things out for you. Whatever preparation you need today, in order to face your tomorrow, He is doing that in you!
Don’t lose the glory from that massage, worried about when it will end! Don’t lose sleep, worried about how much you will actually get. Don’t miss out on your children, your family, because someone hurt you. Don’t miss your today, because you are lamenting on yesterday. Don’t miss your today, worrying about your tomorrow. Pray that when your brain threatens to go back, or leap forward, with worry or anxiety, that the Holy Spirit gently remind you to be in the moment. Trust that God can, and God will, do a lot with the moment you have RIGHT NOW!…